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高等意识手册-第45章

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We create security; sensation; and power addictions in children when we try
to dominate them with such emotional demands as “I’ve told you a thousand
times to。。。 What is the matter with you?。。。 Don’t you ever listen?。。。 I’ve
never seen a dumber。。。 For the last time; I want you to get this straight。。。 Just
do that once more and。。。” As Dr。 Haim Ginott says; “Our ‘normal’ talk drives
children crazy: the blaming and shaming; preaching and moralizing; accusing
and guilt…giving; ridiculing and belittling; threatening and bribing; evaluating
and labeling。” Watch how you feel when people talk to you in such heavily
dualistic ways。
We should replace our alienating; criticizing words with “I” language。
Instead of; “You are a liar and no one can trust you;” say; “I don’t like it
when I can’t rely on your words  it is difficult for us to do things together。”
You talk only about your exact feelings here and now。 You don’t chew over
the past or threaten future punishments。 You skip the disparaging pseudoanalysis
of the child’s character based on your addictive ego demands。
How do you use the experience of being with a child to aid you in your
growth toward higher consciousness? The child can help you develop an
awareness of what an “unfurnished” mind is like。 When a child is first born;
he does not chew over situations with his rational mind。 He is just totally
right here  right now。 You can observe in a very young infant some (but
definitely not all) of the characteristics of higher consciousness。 A child is
usually very perceptive in picking up the true feelings and vibrations of those
around him。 The nervous system of a young child is heavily programmed for
crying and other emotional behaviors that can dominate the consciousness of
adults within earshot so that they will be aware of his or her needs。 As fellow
travelers on the road to higher consciousness; we should see our adult roles
as loving and serving every child。 This helps the child to make a rapid
transition from crying and other emotional behavior to a programming that
permits meeting needs through love and expanded consciousness。
The creation of a heaven on earth in which everyone lives in a world free of
wars; misunderstanding; and duality on every level requires that we no longer
train our children to develop intense security; sensation; and power
addictions。 It is easy to blame the problems of the world on governments;
schools; and uncaring economic institutions; but this is only an evasion。 All
of these institutions are us。 The non…loving; subject…object actions of all of
these institutions have been created and are maintained by addictions that we
have acquired。 Even the polarity of our addictive opposition may strengthen
what we may wish to change!
The only effective and permanent way to change the world in which we live
is to change our level of consciousness。 And one of the best ways to repair
the strong addictive programming that has been conditioned into our
bioputer is to interact with children。 We can save them from the suffering
that would await them if they were to develop heavily programmed power
addictions and demands。 In return; we will benefit by being reminded of
what it is like to live in the here and now; to enjoy a consciousness that is not
continually churned up by the rational mind; and to benefit by the mirror
which the child provides to enable us to see our own addictions。
Your life will give you continual opportunities to show the child (and
yourself) whether you are on a power level of consciousness or a love level of
consciousness。 Every glass of milk that the child spills enables you to show
him the world in which your Conscious…awareness lives。 Do you say (or even
silently feel); “I’ve told you a thousand times to be more careful。 The next
time you spill a glass of milk you are going to stand in the corner for one
hour。 I’m sick and tired of your clumsy carelessness。 It’s about time you
listened to me。 Why don’t you get that rag and clean it up? Are you
helpless?” If so; you will be training the child to dominate his consciousness
by security; sensation; and power addictions。 And since your consciousness
creates your universe through these filters; you will live in a subject…object
world in which your inner serenity is constantly threatened by the acts of the
child。 You are simply using the spilled milk to create heavier and heavier
low…consciousness programming for both of you。 And a low…consciousness
life is full of spilled milk  in one form or another。
When a child spills the milk; you could wele it as an opportunity to help
both of you grow into higher consciousness。 You can say to yourself; “The
milk is spilled  right here; right now。 Fussing about it won’t unspill the
milk。 It will simply irritate both myself and the child。 An upset child may
unconsciously knock over another glass。 I’ve knocked over glasses hundreds
of times。 This is just a normal part of living。 The immature muscle control of
a child increases the probability of spilled milk。 But even now as an adult I
sometimes spill things。 So we’re losing a few ounces of milk; but that’s
absolutely no reason to lose our love and serenity。” And you keep on talking
about whatever you were saying before the milk was spilled。 It should be
cleaned up as a usual thing to do。 You don’t need to head…trip the child by
saying such things as; “That’s all right; everybody spills milk;” unless the
feelings of the child call for further words。 You convey those thoughts by
your loving; flowing acceptance of the spilled milk and your simple; natural
cleaning…up actions。
After spilling the milk; the child will be very sensitive to your feelings and
will pick up any paranoia or antagonism in your consciousness  even though
you may be very sweet and tactful in your words。 If you can really accept the
spilled milk (as well as other non…preferred happenings in your life) and
permit your consciousness to flow in a here…and…now loving way; there will
be very little “spilled milk” in your life。 But if your consciousness gets
caught up in one incident after another that involves your securit
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